How to Balance Order and Chaos
Updated: Aug 8, 2021
"As far as we can discern, the sole purpose of human existence is to kindle a light of meaning in the darkness of mere being"
― Carl Jung
Yes, I will write about life and yes, I am 20 years old. I will explain about what I have learned throughout my life and how I implemented Jordan Peterson's ideologies into it. It all started with reading his book 12 Rules of Life.
Order, known as the "Yang" in the Yin and Yang symbol is a place we all want to be in - and sometimes we are. We know how order feels, having your physical and spiritual self on point, while all stuff around you, just "goes well". This is a place of comfort, a place of explored territory where we feel calm and in control.
There are two types of chaos:
A terrible disease
The second one is the one you knew was coming but haven't paid enough attention - you knew you hadn't sorted things out and the consequences will be big trouble. People hate the bottom falling out of their world. That happens when your fundamental presumptions about things are challenged. Then you have to solve the problem of what constitutes a fundamental presupposition. But how can we use the second one to our advantage? By learning. By exploring, experiencing, and re-learning.
Why learn something? Because you're wrong. I'm wrong. That's why learning is essential.
The problem of being alive is that you have to continually determine how much you're going to maintain your stability (order) and how much you're going to explore (chaos) - and you have to explore because the stable part of you gets "outdated". But if you explore too much or too unwisely, then you can encounter things that can flip you upside down.
Balance is not a "place", because it's so old that your nervous system knows that. It sees the world this way, through chaos and order and that's why I think that understanding both parts is important.
Most of us think that we can easily transition from "What IS" to "What SHOULD be" state, but often, we can't.
This is what really happens:
We have periods of order and chaos. I am going to give you 3 short tips on how to balance both.
3 TIPS TO BALANCE ORDER AND CHAOS
So, where is that place? That balance between order and chaos? You don't want to be terrified nor do you want to be so comfortable. You need to be somewhere, where you're on firm ground with one leg, and with the other, you're testing the waters of other territories. You need to be stable enough, but interested and open to something new.
Meditation is a great way to ask yourself "How am I doing?". Observe your thoughts, and gain control of your energy. Even 5-minute meditation will help you understand how are you feeling at the moment. Examine yourself for presuppositions and action patterns that are not serving you well and go back to those terrible events, untie and understand them, and then let go.
2. Engage in dialogues and listen
Listen to people. If you listen very carefully, they'll tell you in some way that you're stupid - which is useful, so you can be a little less stupid in the future. So, don't protect what you know, you already know what you know, but rather go after what you don't know. That's why you have to talk to people you don't agree with. They're going to tell you things you don't know.
3. Don't lie
Especially to yourself.